Yes, these days not only do we have friends and family to get advice on mothering, but the Internet as well. Still, there's nothing like reading books on the motherhood experience. Maybe it's coming to the realization that you're not the only one who feels a certain way. Or it could be seeing the humor in the mundane world of potty training and PTA meeting from another mother's eyes.
Whatever the case, this Mother's Day, take a well deserved break, and read some of the books in the MOTHERS Book Bag sidebar. Here are some additional titles you may want to check out:
Motherhood Is Not For Wimps: No Answers, Just Stories
by Elizabeth Soutter Schwarzer, a former Congressional Press Secretary now living in a world of bad morning sickness, sleep deprivation, twisted toddler logic, and mommy friends who dye their hair with Grecian 5 Hair color for men. (It's cheap and you can paint it on your widow's peak while the kids are in the tub.) It's got everything: haddock-love, nightmares featuring Glynnis Johns, the occasional f-bomb and an answer to the age-old question of what ABBA must've seen on acid. Oh, and there's a lot of barfing. You can read more at Elizabeth's blog.
I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids: Reinventing Modern Motherhood
by Trisha Ashworth and Amy Nobile, who spoke to mothers of every stripe working, stay-at-home, part-time and found a surprisingly similar trend in their interviews. As one mom put it, "Am I happy? The word that describes me best is challenged." I Was a Really Good Mom Before I Had Kids
diagnoses the craziness and offers real solutions, so that mothers can step out of the madness and learn to love motherhood as much as they love their kids.
The authors just released Dirty Little Secrets from Otherwise Perfect Moms
of surprising, thought-provoking, guilty confessions the moms they interviewed hadn't told anyone else. These are the private thoughts that every mom has and can relate to.
Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay: And Other Things I Had to Learn as a New Mom
by Stefanie Wilder-Taylor. We can all relate that friends, family, colleagues, the UPS delivery guy are all a trove of advice when you have a baby. In busy mom-friendly short essays, Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay delivers the empathetic straight dirt on parenting, tackling everything from Mommy & Me classes to attachment parenting with humor and refreshing honesty, assuring women that they can be good mothers and responsibly make their own choices. A witty and welcome antidote to trendy parenting texts and scarifying case studies, Wilder-Taylor provides genuine support, encouragement, and indispensable common-sense advice.
She recently released Naptime Is the New Happy Hour: And Other Ways Toddlers Turn Your Life Upside Down
. Whether it's planning easy outings that are fun for both of you, dishing the dirt on preschool TV, or perfecting the art of the play date, readers will find advice, anecdotes, and a reassuring sense of camaraderie to help them survive during each hilarious, frustrating, and amazing moment.
The Ten-Year Nap
(fiction) by Meg Wolitzer. This novel is about a group of four New York friends who past decade has been largely defined by marriage and motherhood. Educated and reared to believe that they would conquer the world, they then left jobs as corporate lawyers, investment bankers, and film scouts to stay home with their babies. What was meant to be a temporary leave of absence has lasted a decade. Now, at age forty, with the halcyon days of young motherhood behind them and without professions to define them, Amy, Jill, Roberta, and Karen face a life that is not what they were brought up to expect but seems to be the one they have chosen.
But when Amy gets to know a charismatic and successful working mother of three who appears to have fulfilled the classic women's dream of having it all-work, love, family-without having to give anything up, a lifetime's worth of concerns, both practical and existential, opens up. As Amy's obsession with this woman's bustling life grows, it forces the four friends to confront the choices they've made in opting out of their careers-until a series of startling events shatters the peace and, for some of them, changes the landscape entirely.
Oneness and Separateness: From Infant to Individual
by Louise Kaplan. This closely observed and lyrically written exploration of the journey each baby makes from oneness with his mother to his "second birth" as a unique psychological being is being reissued to tie in with the release of Kaplan's No Voice is ever Wholly Lost: An Explorations of the Everlasting Attachment Between Parent and Child.
In this book, Kaplan draws on her own experience as a psychoanalyst as well as on art, literature, and recent history to illuminate the psychological forces that sustain the dialogue between parents and children.
This dialogue begins with an exchange of gestures between parent and infant. Through these intimacies of everyday life, the parent transmits to the child the emotional language of his species and eventually the verbal language and symbolic communication that enable the child to participate in human culture. Once having entered into the human dialogue, we cannot live without it. The dialogue continues even after death. Using a wide variety of examples, Dr. Kaplan demonstrates how to keep the voices of lost loved ones eternally alive.